How Trauma May Be Showing Up in Your Love Life

Discover the hidden patterns shaping your intimate relationships, and take the first step toward healing and healthier connection.

Have you ever wondered why love feels so hard?

You might find yourself in relationships where you give too much, trust too little, or feel anxious and unsure of your worth. Maybe you shut down when conflict arises, cling to partners out of fear of abandonment, or feel drawn to relationships that leave you feeling unsafe or unseen.

These patterns aren’t your fault. They are often survival strategies learned from past experiences, ways your mind and body tried to protect you. But when they go unrecognised, they can quietly shape your relationships and keep you feeling stuck.

Awareness is the first step to change. By understanding how trauma may be influencing your love life, you can begin to heal old wounds, build self-trust, and create relationships that feel safe, connected, and authentic.

What You’ll Gain From This Free Guide + Checklist

Clarity on your patterns

Learn the five common ways trauma shows up in romantic relationships, and reflect on how these patterns may be affecting your own experiences of love and intimacy.

Practice self-assessment

Use the checklist to recognise whether unresolved trauma may be impacting your relationships and emotional wellbeing.

Gentle steps towards healing

Journaling prompts help you explore your story with compassion, creating space for insight, self-acceptance, and change.

About Sandro Queiroz, Psychologist

I’m Sandro, a registered psychologist based in Bondi Junction, Sydney, offering both in-person and online sessions across Australia. My work is grounded in a deep understanding of how trauma, identity, and relationships are interconnected.

With my own lived experiences of trauma, I know what it’s like to feel unseen or disconnected from your true self. This drives my commitment to creating a warm, non-judgemental space where you can explore what’s really going on beneath the surface without shame, fear, or pressure.

I integrate evidence-based approaches such as Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Hypnotherapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, and Schema Therapy. Together, we gently process past wounds and rebuild emotional safety, self-trust, and the capacity for deeper, healthier connections.

The first step to healing is awareness

You don’t have to keep repeating the same painful patterns. This guide will help you recognise how your past may be influencing your present relationships, and show you practical steps to begin healing.

When you understand yourself better, you can choose differently. You can show up in love as your whole, authentic self, feeling safer, more confident, and worthy of the relationships you truly deserve.

Download your free copy of How Trauma May Be Showing Up in Your Love Life + Self-Assessment Checklist